Making New Choices

Image from the annual Burning Man event in Nevada

Image from the annual Burning Man event in Nevada

Transformation begins within each one of us. 

It begins within your own heart. 

Just like this image from the Burning Man event, which depicts two adults after a disagreement, yet the inner child within each of them simply wants to connect.  Isn’t that at the root of all this disharmony?  The need to be heard, feel safe, believed, respected, and trusted?

It’s easy to get pulled into the distractions of divisive politics, social causes, and science versus philosophy, versus faith, and to feel that if your neighbor, your spouse, or your teenage child is not on your side then they are against you, or worse yet - your enemy. No matter what you believe you still have a choice to agree to disagree. And, you can still choose to love and respect others without bad-mouthing them either behind their back or publicly. The power to live in respectful harmony resides within your heart, mind, and spirit.

It’s nearly impossible to escape the barrage of negativity going on throughout our daily lives – fear, anger, scarcity, noble indignation, moral superiority, us versus them mentality, and to feel threatened, righteous, and defensive.  There’s nothing wrong with having those feelings.  Go ahead and feel it.  It’s normal.  Taking action upon those feelings with injurious behavior, however, only fuels the fire of negativity.  Harmony requires us to see beyond all the negativity and behave in such a way that leads to harmony.

We can each check in with our own attitudes, beliefs, and assumptions and our own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to determine if we are living according to our values and principles.  What we think, how we feel, and our actions speak loudly – they create an energy that radiates outward. What kind of energy are you putting out into the world?

Demanding. Manipulating. Pressuring. Expecting. Forcing. Humiliating, Shaming, Fighting. Judging.

OR

Loving.  Forgiving.  Helping.  Listening.  Balancing.  Harmonizing.  Understanding.  Empathizing.

When my own life was nearly destroyed when I was put through a smear campaign 12-years ago, my soul was injured deeply and it changed my life forever.  I certainly could have become extremely bitter and vengeful.  But I knew that would hold me prisoner to negativity in my life and hold me back from living the kind of life I wanted to experience.

We can make a different choice.  In every moment, we can look inside our hearts and make a different choice.  Put down the stones, and choose love.

Dance, Love, Breathe, and Live Like You Mean It!

Peace & Love, Melanie

Come Join me in my upcoming workshop titled:
'Stretch Your Brave' 

I will be presenting my workshop on the second day of the 'Jumpstart Your Healing Journey' 2-Day workshop.

WORKSHOP DETAILS:

'Jumpstart Your Healing Journey' 2-Day Workshop
January 21 - 22
Hassayampa Inn
Prescott, Arizona
Click here for more details

 

Begin Your Year with Pause

By Melanie Banayat, CHHC

Here we are at the beginning of another new year.  It’s 2017.  Time to clear the slate, say good riddance to the past, and hello the new opportunities. Right? And as wonderful as that sounds we all know from past experience that it’s not always that easy - especially if 2016 was a particularly challenging year all the way up to the very end. 

If that was the case for you then take a moment of pause to breathe deeply, relax your shoulders, and allow yourself to be mindfully in the present moment – right here, right now. 

Listen to your breath. Feel your heart beat. Notice where you feel any tension in your body. Make a mental note of that tension. Choose to release it. Look around you. Are you alone? Look at your surroundings. Notice the sounds. Is there natural light around you? What do you smell? Are there other people around you? What is the energy of your surroundings like at the moment? Is it busy? Or is it relaxed and quiet?  How do you feel emotionally? Happy? Relaxed? Sad?  Do you feel like crying? Do you feel like yelling? Do you feel a need to connect with someone?

The simple exercise of “Pausing” to bring yourself, your surroundings, and your current physical and emotional feelings to the forefront of your mind can help you gain a better perspective that your past is truly behind you.  You’re in a new moment now, with new opportunities.  You can make a new choice.  In every new moment you can make a different choice.  What a gift.  It's the gift you have every day - every moment.

What new choices will you make today? Not tomorrow. 

Today.

THE BACKPACK CARE-KIT PROJECT IN PRESCOTT 2016

The Backpack Care-Kit Project:
This year the Girls G.O.T. Prescott (Women Entrepreneurs) Meetup Group is putting together Backpack Care-Kits for the Prescott Area Women's Shelter (PAWS), which is an emergency drop in homeless shelter serving women and children, the family shelter serves whole families, and the Project Aware Inc. Men's Shelter.

Homelessness may seem like a world away for most of us, but in some ways it's quite near. For any of us, the loss of a job, the illness or death of a spouse or a child, or a severe physical disability could be the route to total despair for some. Struck by personal tragedies, people in homeless shelters across America have lost their homes and been deserted by family and friends. I personally found myself suddenly homeless for about a month back in 2004, and my son (age 14 at the time) and his father were also homeless for about 3 months in 2011. It can be quite traumatizing.

Right here in our own community of Prescott there are many people in the midst of homelessness. What can you do to help them? Sometimes the smallest actions can make a big difference. We can each make a positive impact in the lives of the homeless when we respond to them with kindness and respect, rather than ignore or dismiss them. Even just a kind word and a smile can go a long way. 

The Backpack Care-Kits are given to homeless individuals when they stay at short term emergency shelters. The essential items in each backpack help to provide a sense of dignity when they are able to take care of basic hygiene needs, plus a book or game to occupy their time, and a notebook to write down their thoughts and or make a plan and write down important contact info.

Though the tendency is to provide for women and young children, the teen and men populations are often overlooked. We want to provide hope for all ages and genders, because all ages and genders who find themselves in a homeless situation are likely experiencing stress and emotional struggles. Our goal is to provide basic essential items to help reduce their stress.
 

Donation Drop Off Locations:
In Prescott Contact Melanie Banayat : (928) 710-5550 or Email: team@b-parents.com
In Prescott Valley: Herbal Wisdom Institute at 8141 E. Florentine Rd. M-F 10-5, Sat 10-2

Donations Deadline:  Dec. 15, 2016

Packaging Date:  Sunday Dec. 18, 2016
You can volunteer to help organize, divide up the items, and put the items into the backpacks at Melanie's House.

You can click here to download a printable donation list, or see the list below.

DONATION LIST:
Women:

Backpack
Journal/Notebook/Pencils
Book
Sanitary pads
Shampoo/conditioner
Soap
Deodorant
Toothbrush/toothpaste/floss
Hair bands/clips
Hair brush/comb
Nail clippers
Water bottle
Lip balm
Wet wipes
Small reusable zipper bags
Hat/winter beanie
Prepaid Long Distance Calling Card
Gift Card for taxi service/shuttle

Teens 13-17
Backpack
Coloring Book for teens/Colored pencils
Journal/Notebook/Pencils
Socks
Underwear
Hoodie jacket/winter coat
Hat/Winter Beanie
Winter gloves
Shampoo/conditioner
Soap
Deodorant
Toothbrush/toothpaste/floss
Hair bands/clips
Hair brush/comb
Sanitary Pads for girls
Nail clippers
Water bottle
Gift Card for Movie
Gift Card for taxi service/shuttle
Prepaid Long Distance Calling Card

Children 4-12
Backpack
Books
Games (cards, dice games)
Journal/Notebook/Pencils
Stuffed animal
Coloring book
Crayons
Toy
Winter jacket
Winter gloves
Shampoo/conditioner
Soap
Deodorant
Toothbrush/toothpaste/floss
Hair bands/clips
Hair brush/comb
Nail clippers
Water bottle

Babies/toddlers 0-3
Backpack
Toy/Puzzle
Stuffed animal
Story Book
Diapers/wipes
Socks
Blanket
Gloves
Baby Shampoo/Body Wash
Sippy Cup with no spill spout

Men:
Backpack
Decent disposable razor
Shaving cream
Insulated coffee mug with leakproof lid
Old spice body wash
Towel
Fleece jackets
Work gloves
Soap
Deodorant
Toothbrush/toothpaste
Winter gloves
Hat/Winter Beanie
Prepaid Long Distance Calling Card
Gift Card for taxi service/shuttle